Category: Dating and Relationships
Hey all, I would like to get your opinion on this senario:
A friend of mine was trying to go out with this girl from a different state than he lives in. The problem is the only form of communitation they had was texting. he would try to get the girl to get on the phone or skype with him for a voice chat. So, my friend called her up and some other girl answered trying to get him to think she was the girl he was trying to get with but after awhile of tricking him, she told my friend that she wasn't the girl. So he thinks since he had never heard the voice of the girl he wanted to get with, she could be a man in disguise. What do you folks think of this? I generally prefer voice chatting to texting when I'm trying to get with someone cuz in texting people could say whatever and there is no expression in a voice, it's all words on a screen.
It could be for any reason. The thing is he just needs to be firm, and not get involved if she acts so sketchy, shy, whatever you want to call it.
It could be for any reason. The thing is he just needs to be firm, and not get involved if she acts so sketchy, shy, whatever you want to call it.
Watch the movie Catfish. or the show that is based off of it.
Truth is, people seek out others for fake relationships online. This happens for one reason or another. People get scammed online. That's the truth of it. I wouldn't p it if I were your friend. ursue
I don't know how firm he was, but I'm pretty sure he was very persistent on getting her on the phone. But after trying for a few months, he just said fuck it and moved on to something else because he knew there was no progress being made on her part and he had been tricked as I have mentioned earlier.
It is patently unsafe for anyone male or female to remain in a relationship where there is blatant trickery like this.
It's also hard for young men to accept, since we basically teach young women about safe calling, and other situational-awareness practices, but we don't do the same for men, since in the media men are portrayed as aggressors only. But I would say your friend is smart to have stopped contacting her, and to have talked to you about it.
But more than any of this, he shouldn't feel embarrassed about it, or feel like the fool for it. Only don't participate at all anymore with her now that he knows. Like you said, if in fact it is a her, or maybe it's a gang of them that wants his wallet, could be males or females or a mixture. There is no good reason for that type of trickery to be involved.
Leo
If we don't talk on the phone, I can't get your address, real name, and such information we don't have a relationship, and I stop trying to get with you.
Would you buy a item you couldn't read about, nor get any information on other then it was for sale? No.
It could truly be a girl, but if she won't talk she doesn't exist.
I was watching Doctor Phil once on a day off not long ago and it was about this woman who had fallen in love with this guy online but the guy happened to be a woman; and further investigations led her to discovering it was a fomer friend of hers.
This post just reminded me of that. :)
Maybe it could be the same girl, yet saying she's different one on the phone. I see no reason for her doing this, or maybe she does it because she's really not interested in getting involved.
being shy, in my opinion is no excuse, cuz if the girl wants to get with the guy, she has to make a move at some point and that at some point will involve phone calls.
Who cares. A relationship is nothing with out pertisipation.
agreed
Sounds like catfishing to me. It's a good thing he never got really involved.